For over 1,800 years, women have been allowed to propose marriage to men. Let’s take a look at how this Irish tradition evolved to become part of the Scottish legal codes!
Could you help by answering a question: Can I propose marriage to my boyfriend?
Here’s the situation: Terrance and I have been dating for over five years and talked seriously about marriage this fall but Terry hasn’t wandered into any jewelry stores just yet looking for an engagement ring for me. He is a CPA and it is tax season as I write this. He comes home every night, having worked long hours, and physically exhausted. In fact, he falls asleep in front of the TV muttering about Oregon tax law. I know he doesn’t have the time to plan a proposal so I’m wondering what the options are.
When I spoke to my Irish grandmother, Kathleen, she said that in Ireland on Ladies’ Privilege Day (February 29 or Leap Day), women are allowed to propose marriage to men.
She told me that since I’m an architect established in my career, there is no reason I can’t take the “burden” of proposing off of Terry.
What do you think?
–Deirdre Doubting Herself in Dayton (Oregon)
Your grandmother is absolutely right!
In Ireland, Leap Day (Feb. 29) is called “Bachelor’s Day” or “Ladies’ Privilege.”
It’s based on the legend of an interaction between St. Bridget and St. Patrick. (Fun fact: the legend became the basis for legal precedent in Scotland and England.)
How did this happen? Back in the fifth century (400-499 AD), men found many tasks to keep them busy which meant proposing to their lady loves was further and further down his “to do” list.